In this day and age of “everyone is a coach” advice is running rampant. It isn’t enough that you get advice from your friends and family, now complete strangers are offering it up!
We have blog after blog giving you advice, and video after video espousing wisdom. It has become a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week, 365 day a year ordeal. Phew!
So what do you do with all this ADVICE?
First of all! Ask yourself this question, “Did I ask for this advice”?
If the answer is yes, well then you get what you get! I find people ask for advice for two reasons.
1. They really want help with a decision
Or
2. They really want to look like a victim or martyr.
Next question to ask yourself if you did in fact ask for advice, am I really wanting help or am I wanting to look like a helpless victim or martyr?
Those who are truly looking for advice will be receptive. They will consider each advice givers input and take steps to do what they have been advised.
Martyrs and victims will reject all advice and counter with even more proof of victimhood or martyrdom. These counterfeit advice seekers are easy to spot. Once the advice starts to come, the situation and the circumstances get bleaker and more desperate. The person is so painted into the corner they are nearly forcing those surrounding them to admit how awful their situation is. They are not looking to get out of the situation and in most cases are completely character assassinating another person, either a parent, spouse, boss, co-worker, etc.
If you get caught in this web of deceitful advice seeking – get out! This person is a black hole and not helpable.
Now, if you are getting solicited or unsolicited advice and are not quite sure what to do with it, here are my 5 steps to graciously handle ADVICE.